Death Is Stupid

Death Is Stupid

Book - 2016
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"This exploration of grief and mourning recognizes the anger and confusion that a child feels around death while offering possibilities for celebrating life and love. This is the second book in the series, Ordinary Terrible Things, following the first installation, Divorce is the Worst"--
Publisher: New York City : The Feminist Press at the City University of New York, 2016.
Copyright Date: ©2016
ISBN: 9781558619258
Branch Call Number: 155.937 HIGGI
Characteristics: 64 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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This exploration of death and grieving begins with a boy mourning the loss of his grandma and his bold observation that "When a loved one dies/people can say some/.stupid things"-referring to the platitudes offered to him (e.g., "Just be grateful for the time you had with her."... Read More »

Non-fiction for ages 5 to 8. Acknowledges the emotions and confusion young people commonly experience when someone dies, and describes ways to celebrate love and life.

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VaughanPLDaniela Apr 24, 2019

This warm, introspective junior read touches on a difficult topic in a gentle and comforting manner. Perfectly relatable and honest, Death is Stupid will guide readers through the stages of grief in a respectful and encouraging tone. Young children who are navigating the loss of a loved one will find much of their own experiences on these pages. The unique combination of illustrations and photos highlights the power of art to transform grief into something beautiful. A highly recommended read.

Oct 04, 2018

I love this book! If you have ever dealt with the death of a loved one (human or animal) as a child, you needed this book. Its done in mixed media that is very attractive and can lead to a lot of discussions. The story is about the death of a grandmother (Not the one from "Tell me about sex, Grandma") and how this child feels and deals with the death. Provides great vocabulary and ideas for activities. Its sad and very real. Age appropriate from about 4 and older, depending on the child.

LiztheLibrarian Feb 09, 2018

This is a fantastic book to help children talk about and understand death and grief. I would even say it would be great for adults given that it is so straightforward and relate-able. Death is stupid, and unfair, but a part of the human experience and this book helps to make it just a little less stupid.

Dec 19, 2017

A striking picture book about death, from the perspective of a young person of color. Though I object to using "stupid" as an ableist perjorative, I appreciate the honest, humorous take the author has on approaching loss and grief -- including the mixed media illustrations and handwritten text. This book can comfort people of all ages, and includes easy activities for anyone to engage their grief creatively. In a society that expects us to hustle through our grief as quickly as possible (preferably within the span of "bereavement leave" or "excused absences"), Death is Stupid validates the impacts of loss, and responds to the aspects of mourning that sometimes feel too vulnerable to share.

May 11, 2017

This book is AMAZING!

nmaryann Dec 08, 2016

Higginbotham shares an honest and sensitive story of a young boy who has lost his grandmother, including his advice to readers on how to cope with the loss of someone special (person or pet).

This book also includes an incredible resource section of activities and ways to remember a loved one when they have died. Some of the boy's suggestions include: read what they read, make what they made, and treasure what was dear to them.

Books for kids about grief are pretty hit or miss. They're usually a little too didactic or too clinical or too abstract. Death is Stupid, however, is none of those things. Title aside (which is a cute reference to the text but cheapens the book a bit without that context, I think), this is a wonderful book to read with a child who is experiencing loss. This book dispels a lot of ideas about death and grief that are sometimes forced upon children by well-meaning adults in order to lessen the blow (i.e. grief looks a certain way or parents shouldn't also grieve or "it's like sleeping" etc.) This is done in a very kind, gentle, and relatable way. This book does a great job of embracing the unknown that comes with death (rather than try to explain it away) and it offers some concrete ideas to express grief over a loved one's passing. The book itself is beautiful - the text is hand written and the images have a unique collage style. While looking for books about death and grief isn't something most people want to do ever, it's comforting to know that, when the need arises, books like this one exist.

Apr 29, 2016

Excellent and easy read for both children and the adults caring for them. Grief is illustrated in a way children can relate. Practical suggestions to help a child with grief. Good conversation starters an alert adult can tap into to get a child talking. It has a scrapbook feel interior that should engage children. Highly recommend even if you are not currently in a grief situation. For one day, you or someone you love will face grief.

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Apr 29, 2016

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